Viewers have shed plenty of tears during Outlander Season 3. But what about the actors? We round up all the exquisite single tears we’ve seen in their brilliant performances.Â
Through Episode 308, âFirst Wife,â Outlander Season 3 has had us on the edge of our sofas, binge watching each episode and tearing through tissue boxes left and right. But whatâs had me re-re-re-re-watching this season, repeatedly pressing the 10-second rewind button on the remote and, in true Scottish fashion, truly greetinâ ma eyes out, are the exquisite single tear, crying-on-cue moments.
Be it a solitary tear, full-out-slow-slide-down-the-wall sobbing or any form of waterworks in between, crying on cue is an art, and the extraordinary Outlander cast has done it perfectly, far exceeding the âletâs really make the fans cryâ mark. Weâve seen Caitriona Balfe, Sam Heughan, Tobias Menzies, David Berry and Steven Cree all produce the perfect single tears, precisely spilling the salty drops of liquid gold at just the right moment.
Those exquisite single tears (let’s call them ESTs) have tugged at our hearts, evoking all the âx-mpathyâ feels. They are as award-worthy as are our beloved actors who produced them.
We know what brings our Outlander actors to tear. Under the direction of Ron D. Moore, they are acting out the phenomenal source material of Diana Gabaldonâs Outlander book series. Through the first two seasons and the corresponding books, weâve seen just about every human emotionâjoy, sadness, love, hate, jealousy, you name it. You would cry, too, if Black Jack happened to you!
But how do they do it?
Cue the Tears
We may not be privy to each actorâs motivation, but Google always come through for us. I pulled these tips from the Actors Guide to Crying and Tears and a couple of crib sheets about crying on cueâone from Backstage and another from New York Film Academy.
- It doesnât really matter what gets an actor to that golden drop moment as they arenât required to divulge how they produce the tears. They just have to cry on cue.
- As with any physical activity, actors must hydrate. Iâm making an educated guess hereâSam Heughan likely takes in as much if not more fluids for Outlander tear-jerking scenes than he does for his My Peak Challenge workouts.
- There are multiple mental preparation avenues, from methods like Adler or Meisner to accessing personal experiences.
- There are a couple of fail-safe physical options, too. The first is staring, in an intentional way. About 30 seconds before the tears need to flow, stare at something, donât blink, and the tears will come. The second is more a trick-of-the-trade avenue, using a menthol stick. Heck, I played the game at home and made it happen with an over-the-counter Vicks Inhaler!
Now you, too, can bring the waterworks on demand. Maybe add acting lessons to your holiday wish list? Or maybe we could leave it to the brilliant actors shedding the best character tears of Season 3…
Frank
Guess it shouldnât have been a surprise, at least for book readers, that Frank had the first EST, in the first episode of Season 3. When Claire returned through the stones, she made a bargain with Frank to remain married and, as our Scottish Highlander Jamie would say, âtogethaâ raise the baby she was carrying, a bairn fathered by that very same Jamie.
Off to Boston they went, where Claire tried to make a go of itâit being dutiful wife to Frank, cooking, playing well with others, medical school, no big whoop. Well, it was the best of times and the worst. Imagine the worst as all that comes from being married to the wrong man and being the only woman in medical school. The best? The birth of Brianna (also known as Bree), named after Jamieâs father, Brian.
After taking Claire to the hospital for the birth (and essentially being put in charge of everything except the actual delivery, as was customary back in the day), Frank sweeps in afterwards with the wee bairn and is so happy that an EST slides down his cheek. It even lingers for a bit.

We feel hopeful for them, donât we? Mistake! We were warned with the episode title, âThe Battle Joinedââwhich was about way more than just The Battle of Culloden.
Jamie
Our King of Men Jamie Fraser is a verbal lover, a fighter and a great crier. His first EST moment helped us (well, me, for sure) get through a scene that book-reading show watchers have been dreading since Episode 101âhis encounter with Mary Mac in Episode 302, âSurrender.â We like Mary Mac, we really do. After all, she takes the heat from the Red Coats over the Game of Thrones-ish moment between Fergus and the raven. Sheâs multi-talented, quick on her feet and a big help to Jenny. Whatâs not to love?
Well, let me tell you, she finds Jamieâs man cave and practically forces herself on him, thatâs what! But I donât think Jamieâs EST is from happiness like Frankâs, albeit Mary Mac is offering him a gift.

I choose to believe, once they both agreed to surrender to the moment, that Jamie convinced himself that if he just kept his eyes closed, he could pretend Mary Mac was Claire, so his EST came from his remembrance of their wedding night. Thatâs my story, anyway, and Iâm stickinâ with it!
Ron D. Moore and his team of torturers made us wait a bit for Jamieâs next EST but it was so_worth_the_wait. Through all the angst and in so many tender moments between that tear in Episode 302 and the next, in Episode 306, âA. Malcolm,â that I felt sure I had missed one. So, of course, I had to watch againâand again, and againâand, oh, whatâs the use of counting! Iâve scoured iPhone and different TV screens just in case one might reveal a subtle shiny drop yet unseen.
But through all the EST-worthy moments for Jamieâparting with Murtagh, leaving Willie behind at Helwater, seeing Claire again in the print shop after 20 long years of his own Droughtlander and, oh_my_goodness, seeing the photographs of his daughterânada. None. The tears hung on the verge, never breaching the dam of his lovely lower lids, making our eyes leak and leaving us swimming in our own tears.
I didnât see another EST from Jamie until the super sexy reunion session in Madame Jeanneâs brothel and, still, it took a while. That next EST appeared in the reunion sex part deux, as they took their time to truly savor the moment and each other. It trickled down Jamieâs cheek as they moved together in a way that poor Geneva never had the chance to experience.

Lord John Grey
What can we say about Lord John Grey? Heâs honorable, devastatingly handsome and may even beat Jamie in the tricorn hat wearing contest. To quote Jamie, heâs a British officer with a ramrod up his arse. He presides over the prison where numerous Jacobites are sent after Culloden and where Jamie eventually lands after a haircut, shave and essentially giving himself up. Oh, yes, like many of us, Lord John Grey is an Obsessenach. He is head over heels in love with James Alexander Malcolm MacKenzie Fraser.
Unfortunately for Johnny, he hasnât yet heard the Black Jack vs Jamie and Claire story. So, in episode 303, âAll Debts Paid,â he has no idea whatâs coming when, in a moment of weakness, he comes on to Jamie. Letâs just say heâs lucky Jamie chooses to use his words and take his leave.

As Jamie walks away, Lord John realizes he has made a grave error, one that has likely broken any tenuous bond that was developing between them. He blinks, and boomâthereâs his EST moment, filled with regret, loss and longing.
Claire
As our long-suffering heroine, no surprise either that Claire surpasses a trifecta and has not one, not two, not even three but FOUR EST momentsâthree in âAll Debts Paid,â and the fourth in âA. Malcolm.â You have to give it to her, sheâs been paying down her debt to Frank in the longest game of Charades ever and, once found again, she’s ready to have her type set (see what I did there?) by Jamie, aka printer Alexander Malcolm.
In EST moment 1, Frank gives in to his Black Jack side and sabotages Claireâs medical school graduation celebration by inviting girlfriend Dr. Candy Sandy over (âshe was just picking him upââ really!?). Claire takes the high road and lets him off the hook, or so we think. But, no, she waits up, and lets the obviously inebriated professor have it. He admits to the deliberate act and a frank (pun intended) discussion ensues about options and consequences. When he brings up their lousy parlor game record, itâs all just too much and down comes Claire’s EST 1.

Years later, but remember weâre still in the same episode, Claire and Frank have another frank discussion (yes, I do love puns) on options and consequences. We know time has passed because hipper Frank has new glasses and Claire hasnât had her âdoes she, or doesnât sheâ Miss Clairol moment to hide her stray grays. This time, she is brutally honest with Frank and herself, fessing up that she could never, not ever, forget Jamie. Thereâs our Claire EST 2.

Thereâs a shorter wait, show and years wise, for Claire’s third EST moment. Within hours of her EST moment 2, Claire learns from her bestie, Dr. Joe Abernathy, that Frank has had an accident that she discovers was fatal. As Claire says her final goodbye, I imagine Frankâs spirit hovering in the corner of the room. She kisses his shoulder and tells him she did love himâŚonce. His spirit floats away now with a big smile on its face. Itâs the perfect setup for EST moment 3, and Ms. Balfe knocks it out of the park. She bends over for a final kiss and that EST 3 rolls down her cheek, across his nose, onto his cheek.

Now to Claireâs final Season 3 EST moment (so far) in âA. Malcolm.â Itâs the moment Claireâand all of us with herâhave waited for since Jamie shoved her back through the stones (thatâs right, Jamie, she did not WANT to leave, you made her!).
After that final, dare I say kiss of death with Frank, Claireâs journey through the puddle of time, the extended opening, Jamieâs recovery from his dead faint, and the notorious ale pot incident, Jamie finally gets over the shock. With tears brimming in his eyes, Jamie manages to stop himself from his next instinctâto jump her bonesâand politely says âMay I?â before leaning in for a kiss. Again, Jamie, a question isnât really a question if you already know the answer!
We see the tears brimming in Claireâs eyes, too, and, for once, Jamie says too muchâno need to repeat the âitâs been a long timeâ line he used on Mary Mac here, right?!? Anyway, just as their lips are about to meet for that long-awaited kiss, that EST spills over and rolls down Claireâs cheek. Letâs face it, we probably would have gotten to the real reunion right there in the print shop if the hilariously long-suffering Geordie hadnât returned with the ash.
Honorable Mention
Ian
Bless Ian for his never-ending-patience, stoic nature and for his own EST in Episode 307, âCrème de Menthe.â As the episode begins, we think Claire is skating on thin ice when she has a run-in with the excise man hunting Jamie, but itâs really Jamie with the thin blades and shifty eyes as he flat out lies to Ian who appears at the brothel looking for his son, Young Ian.
Ian probably suspects what we know, that after running away from country life at Lallybroch for the umpteenth time, Young Ian went straight to Jamie in Edinburgh to learn the ways of the world. But Ian has a true shock comingâClaire is back.
His EST appears as he listens to Claire describe how she would have returned sooner from âBostonâ had she known Jamie had survived at Culloden. Here I put Ian and Murtaugh in the same âstill waters run deep, ye kenâ barrel. He is so used to putting up with both Jamieâs and Jennyâs shenaniganâs that it takes Claire coming back from the dead to move him to even a single tear.
Dr. Candy Sandy
Not wanting to dwell on the unpleasant Frank and Dr. Candy Sandy business, I would like to recognize her âFreedom & Whiskyâ EST moment, played out with Claire at the Harvard ceremony honoring Frankâs work. We donât like it when she takes Claire to task about not giving up Frank and says she would give anything for just one more day with him. Weâre glad in the end, however, that Frank and Dr. Candy Sandy met and that, for his sake, he wasâhere comes her EST momentâthe love of her life.
Willie
Thereâs one other potential EST moment that Iâm adding in this category because I canât tell for sure if it really happened. Maybe you can help?
Weâve seen EST moments in all episodes except Episode 304, âOf Lost Things,â which Iâve watched at least 10 times. Thereâs the Claire, Bree, Roger Three-Musketeers-desperately-seeking-Jamie adventure, AND Jamieâs turn as stable hand MacKenzie at Helwater where he, ahem, fathers wee Willie (not going there, nope). And, ahem again, his ‘I’ll trade ya sex’ bargaining session with Lord John before he has to eventually leave Helwater because people are beginning to talk about how much Willie looks like Mac.
Through all that, the only EST moment that I THINK I saw in this episode was at the end. Was there an EST just barely rolling down Willieâs face as he watches Mac ride out of his life? Even on pause I canât tell for sure. Did you see it?

A Hard Rainâs A-Gonna Fall
Yes, our tears have rained down hard. Weâve probably cried a river so far and book readers know there are oceans to come. Some good news? Crying is good for us!
Iâm guessing many of you are familiar with the Out of Africa story. The book’s Danish author Baroness Karen Christenze von Blixen-Finecke wrote under pen names Tania Blixen and Isak Dinesen, and penned one of my favorite quotes:
The cure for anything is salt waterâsweat, tears, or the sea.
So, letâs prepare ourselves for the cure weâll obviously need. Hydrate like a professional. Stock up on the tear-catching material of your choice. I prefer plain Kleenexâthe ones they describe as âsignature soft and strongâânot store brands, nor Puffs, nor even the fancy-schmancy Kleenex, like ultra-soft. No, Iâm not a paid spokesperson, I simply have the ability to tie anything back to Outlander, just ask my friends and family.
My husband gets it, though. He agreed when I suggested it may be time to rejoin Costco so we can buy Kleenex by the case. Then, he upped his game by watching Episode 307 by himself so we could discuss when I returned from visiting my parents. And there’s moreâhe arranged a trip to Scottsdale for a Diana Gabaldon book signing with my Obsessenach friend, Sara, to celebrate our November birthdays. Clearly we are all thinking ahead and planning for whatâs comingâa long, rough voyage guaranteed to be met with a few tears.

Oh, yes, we will be crying ALL the tearsâfrom ESTs to uncontrollable sobbing. And the Kleenex will be dropping like flies.
Do you have any single tear moments from any season that tugged at your heartstrings?
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Thanks Karen! Lots of tears on both sides of the screen this season. The two parts so far that have triggered the tears for me, no matter how many times I re-watch:
*When beginning of “Hard Rain’s Gonna Fall” plays as Jamie looks at Willie, and then on through the end of the episode. “Oh where have you been, my blue-eyed son.” SO TRAGIC.
*In this latest–“First Wife,” when after Jamie accuses her of leaving him through the stones, Claire turns to him in utter shock and pain and says “Left you? You made me leave!” The look on her face kills me. It’s so real I just can’t help crying with her.
I agree wholeheartedly with your comments Lisa. As soon as Willie says But I haven’t got anything to remember you by, my tears start flowing too!
Wee Willie! I so hope he returns in later books!!
Did you enter the bracelet raffle?
Yes! I was so dreading Of Lost Things and ended up being entranced by it. Itâs right up there with First Wife for me. When Claire asks why Jamie didnât tell her and he responds with âWhy? Why?â – that second âWhyâ was exquisite. If theyâre not showered with awards, there is no entertainment justice!
Really great trip through the trail of tears Karen! I need to go to my happy place now lol! But seriously, these actors are amazing .. They gut us in these moments. I think Sam’s ESTW’s (EST wannabes) are just as heartbreaking because they hang you there in the moment .. trying to hold it together with him (Farewell Rupert.. and Willie Ride Away)! Ugh just kill me already! Lol. I think you missed two.. unless they were not exquisite or single enough to qualify… The tear Claire sheds hugging Bree goodbye.. and the tear Bree sheds in Roger’s arms after her mom drives away… Thank you for taking the time to share these thoughts.. beautifully written piece xoxo
Thanks, Angela! I agree about those almost-tear moments, especially the Helwater sequence. Award-worthy!!!
I saw the tears you mention. Iâd have to double check but I believe they both wiped both cheeks, indicating they made the tears flow from both of their beautiful eyes.
Fascinating topic. The art of acting is so seemless to me…I get caught up in the story and never really think about how itâs done. Thanks for shedding light on shedding tears, and for your thorough research (oh, all those hours rewatching!) on when it happens in the show.
Thanks, Tammy! Itâs a tribute to them that we are captivated by the story. When elements jump out at me, like these tears, I have to follow where they lead.
Love it! I bawl all the time, especially when I read, listen to, or watch Outlander! I think you may be right about Willie’s tear, but I’ll have to try watching again. The pain in Jamie’s eyes as he left made up for any lack of EST moment at that time for me. What heart-wrencher! I’m just happy my husband enjoys the show, but Kleenex investment or watching by himself for discussion would come under “unrealistic expectations” đ However, I will not complain as I have gotten some Outlander jewelry after many statements that he would not get into Outlander merchandise, so I’m a reasonably happy camper. Yours is a keeper–tell him I said so. đ
Thanks, Jacquelyn! Wish I was in a position to bestow awards on Mr. Heughan and Ms. Balfe. Their expressions alone deserve accolades.
I told him my hubby what you said and threw in a kiss for good measure. I think husbands like ours who watch with us are brilliant. Please share that with yours!!
Thank you for your lovely words Karen. All these moments are so precious and I, too, have shed many tears while watching as well as when reading the books, even multiple times. My favourite episode of the whole series so far is Of Lost Things and even though, as you say, Jamie does not shed a tear in that final scene when riding away from Helwater, his face gets me every time as does Lord John’s. They are all such wonderfully talented actors and we are so lucky that they portray Diana’s characters so truthfully.
Agree! I canât picture anyone else in the roles.
I mentioned in another response that I was prepared to hate Of Lost Things and instead feel it is one of the top episodes of the series. Brilliant ending, expertly acted!
This was a good article. I always wonder why I cry way harder than the characters. Sometimes I son so hard I wonder why I am moved that much. The actors, writers and the rest of the crew have managed to tap into that deep part of the human emotion. I love it. And the quote at the end, about salt water, I really like that. I might have to paint a price of drift wood with that on it. Love it. Thanks.
Thanks, Brandi! Like you I have always had strong reactions to art. I remember sobbing all the way home after watching the 1970âs movie Walking Tall. Out of Africa is another one that deeply touched me.
I have joyous reactions, too, but itâs the tears that always are first in line in my memories. Inspiration is all around us, right? If you do end up painting, please share a photo on the Facebook page?
My favorite single tear moment was Jamieâs in season 1 when Claire com s back to him after making her choice to remain with Jamie. A beautiful moment.
What a pivotal moment, huh? When I compare the performances, now vs then, they have taken us on a wonderful journey. So much more deliciousness to come!
A very good article. Thank you so much. I thought I’m alone there at first, crying buckets, crazy sobbing like I’ve lost my last friend. My husband would give me this ” Are you alright?” look. I have seen those EST mentioned but my moment was when Jamie said to Claire ” It was as if the sun came out again “, it was so wonderful to hear just started boohooing because I can relate and also knowing that he was living like a ghost without her for twenty years as mentioned in their last fight, can you imagine that!
Thanks, Elena! If the tears flowing from us Outlander fans round the world came together, wit might raise the level of a few bodies of water. This story is so compelling and the characters expertly brought to life by brilliant actors!
Karen,
Love the insights! Thanks for introducing me to the EST and the world of Outlander. Happy birthday!
Slainte
Thanks, Sara! Love that youâre now an Obsessenach. And youâre the best travel partner EVER! An early happy birthday to you!!
Loved this….I’ll have to go back and watched these episodes again…I know…such a hardship…not!
Watching multiple times is a burden all of us Obsessenachs simply must bear, Tina. Thanks for taking time to comment!
I also have really noticed those amazing single tears that show up at the most moving moments! They tug at my heartstrings more than words!
They’re sometimes more effective than full-out sobbing, right, Mary?!? Thanks for leaving a note. <3
Good article, but seasons 1 and 2 had some amazing EST’s also. My favorite is in Season 102 Episode 3 in which Jamie takes Claire back to the stones so she can go home. After making her decision to stay with Jamie and waking him up, he has one of his wonderful EST’s. It’s OK though, cause I cried the other 1,953 tears for him!
Yes, Joenne, I agree. Great EST moments throughout all three seasons!
Being a tough 64 year old that did not even cry when my mother died 20+ years ago,I wept when Claire first kiss Jamie in the print shop. She shed a tear during the first kiss. Iam too old for this…I know its going to kill me..
You finally found your heart, Don, congratulations! It’s a good age. Maybe that’s the reason Paul McCartney wrote a song around it. đ
I find it debilitating to watch DIA and Of Lost Things. When Claire stood at Culloden to tell Jamie about Bree, I can not hold it together. It’s so gut wrenching that she holds it together as she tells him. In Season three episode 304, I cry for Geneva when Jamie explains what love is to her. What amounted to a rape scene in the book, becomes something else beautiful because Jamie is so gentle and understanding of her blackmail! When Jamie tells Willie “…I’ll remember you…” and Dylan’s A Hard Rain plays, I more than tear up, I can’t catch my breath! Sam’s acting there is so Heart-breaking. He nails it!
I can accept the actors as such while holding on to their character. With Sam and Cait, I lose sight that they are acting, instead seeing them as their character only. Is that weird? Only about 18 months in on the books, and waiting for “Tell The Bees…” to hear more of their journey. Rewatch at every available moment. It’s THE love story of all time easily replacing Romeo and Juliet in my eyes. The characters are more relatable.
Agree, Muriel! Romeo and Juliet is a classic tale. I went through a box of Kleenex watching the 1968 movie starring Leonard Whiting and Olivia Hussey. But the Jamie and Claire story has longevity in addition to the essential love and angst of R&J. I felt the same about Whiting and Hussey as I do about Heughan and Balfe. I’ve had to watch them in other roles for a reality check. đ
The scene that still makes me cry is from Season One, Episode 15 Wentworth Prison. At the end of the episode when BJR cuts his shirt, Jamieâs blank stare ahead, the sweat, the bob of the Adamâs apple, and the tears convey so much pain, suffering, and heartbreak. An actor who can convey so much emotion in with those simple tools, has my vote for every award out there. Sam Heughan should have more awards for his acting.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Gisele. I agree! All the awards for Mr. Heughan!!